Does this sound familiar?
You're capable. Reliable. The one people come to when things need to get done. From the outside, everything looks fine — maybe even impressive.
But underneath, your mind doesn't switch off. You replay conversations. You prepare for worst-case scenarios that rarely happen. You feel a low hum of dread before things you're objectively good at.
You've probably told yourself: I should be able to handle this. Other people have it worse. I don't have time to fall apart.
That's exactly why it stays hidden — and exactly why it doesn't go away on its own.
What this can look like day to day
Lying awake rehearsing a conversation that already went fine.
Struggling to enjoy an achievement because you're already worrying about the next one.
A constant, low-level feeling of being one mistake away from being "found out."
Needing everything to be done perfectly, then feeling drained rather than satisfied when it is.
Keeping people at arm's length because you don't want to be a burden — or to look like you're struggling.
Therapy tailored to you:
“The Three Legged Stool”
When I talk about evidence-based therapies, people are sometimes concerned that this means taking a “one size fits all” approach. This really isn’t the case. Good evidence-based practice uses a combination of research evidence, therapist’s knowledge and client’s preferences to inform shared decisions.
A metaphor used to represent this idea is the “three-legged stool” (Spring, 2007). Each leg of the stool represents information that we use to make decisions in therapy. The first leg represents your preferences, values and other aspects of your life that are important and may have a bearing on therapy. The next leg is the best available research evidence. After your assessment, I will explain to you what evidence-based treatment approaches are most likely to be helpful to you. The last leg represents therapist knowledge and expertise.
My aim is to use my knowledge and experience to help you to get the most from your therapy.
How can I find out more?
For more information about CBT, please visit the BABCP website BABCP - What is CBT? or Patient Info - Cognitive Behavioural Therapy CBT Leaflet